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Alfred Adler( Birth Order concept : second born child the youngest and only one child)

Alfred Adler Birth Order Concept Second Born Child

 The second child is likely to view the elder brother or sister as a competitor to be overcome. If the elder child is protective and supportive of the younger sibling’s attempts to be outstanding, healthy development is more quite possible; if the older child resents the second child and acts ill will, the movement toward neurosis for the younger one is more likely. Adler also suggested that the second child may set unrealistically high goals, thereby virtually ensuring ultimate failure.
When the second born competes yourself with firstborn he is motivated, who may try to catch up to and surpass the older sibling, a goal that spurs language and motor development in the second-born. The second born child does not show power, authority and not treat other siblings like teacher or parents. The second born is optimistic in the future and is likely to be competitive and ambitious, as Adler was. Another thing which also arises from the relationship between first-borns and second-borns. If, for example, the older siblings excel in sports or scholarship, the second-borns may feel that they can never surpass the first-borns and may give up trying. Therefore, combativeness would not become part of the second-borns’ lifestyles, and they may become defaulter, performing below their abilities in many facets of life.

The Youngest Child

The youngest child is typically regarded as the “baby of the family” and tends to commandeer most of the family’s attention. Adler believed that parents are likely to pamper and spoil the youngest members of their families (Mairet, 1964, p. 107). A result is a person who is excessively dependent on others for support and protection, one who wants to excel in everything he or she does but often fails. Youngest or last-born children never face the shock of dethronement by another child and often become the pet of the family, particularly if the siblings are more than a few years older. The youngest child is often great achievers in whatever work they undertake as adults.  if the youngest children are exceedingly pampered and come to believe they needn’t learn to do anything for themselves that is a reverse effect.  Such type of children may retain the helplessness and dependency of childhood. Unaccustomed to striving and struggling, used to being cared for, these people find it difficult to adjust to adulthood.

The Only One Child

The only child has no sibling rivals and is likely to be the center of attention in the family, provided his or her birth was a welcome event. If the child was unwanted, neglect or active rejection by the parents may occur. In most instances, the only child will be pampered by the parents, especially the mother. Later, the child may experience considerable interpersonal difficulty if he or she is not universally liked and admired.

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