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Alfred Adler ( Birth Order concept ) first born child

Alfred Adler Birth Order

 Adler’s gives the idea that order of birth is a major social impact in childhood, one from which we create our style of life. In spite of the fact that siblings have the same parents, live in the same house, they do not have the same social environments. Being older or younger than one’s siblings and being exposed to different parental attitudes create different childhood conditions that help determine different kinds of personalities.  He wrote about four situations:

 The first-born child, the second-born child, the youngest child, and the only child.

The first-born child

 The parents are usually very happy at the birth of their first child and devote a great deal of time and attention to the new baby. As a result, first-borns have a very happy and secure existence, until the second-born child appears.
The eldest child tends to be the center of attention in the family before the birth of other siblings. With their births, he or she is placed in the position of the “dethroned monarch,” forced to share parental affection and attention with others. 
 The oldest child may feel dissatisfaction and hostility toward the younger ones. Such negative feelings are likely to occur if the parents have not properly prepared the child for the arrival of a sibling or siblings. However, if they have made adequate preparations, the oldest child may adopt a protective and supportive attitude, and will often play the part of father or mother with the younger ones and feel responsible for their welfare.
 The oldest child understands best the importance of power and authority because he or she has had to undergo their loss within the family.

 The oldest child will be highly supportive of, and dependent on, authorities in later life and will be a person who tends to support the status quo. Adler found that first-borns are pessimistic about the future. He has to play the role of teacher, tutor, leader, and disciplinarian, anticipated by parents to help care for younger siblings. Such experiences often enable to become more intellectually mature than younger children.

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